Archive for March 2010

School Love

Hi i m xyz,

When i was in 7th std a boy in my class used to stare me, smile at me, always finding ways to talk to me...... he used to sometimes aswel sing song

He used to be happy in my happiness and sad in my sadness slowly this continued and we reached in our 10th std . me as well as my friend realised that maybe he loves me but he never confessed it to me. He is extremely shy boy very intelligent and thinks of the world more than himself. Now even i am in love with him . now he is my college aswel . i have confessed myself to him but yet he has not responded. My friends had smsd him askng about him but he replied that he is not interested in all this thing. But i love him a lot . what should i do now?


Hi,

There is a famous saying when love comes into picture - "Love is a free bird, set it free. If it comes back, it is all yours, if it doesn't come back it was never yours". Set your love free, love him but don't be possessive, if he has feelings he will definitely come back.

Anyway you are in high-school so concentrate on your studies, let him also study well. Let your love grow with time and it will be yours. Be positive, all good things will happen to you.

In the meanwhile you talk to him & say that you had confessed what you thought & that doesn't mean that he has to have the same feelings.

Keep the friendship & try to be a part of his feelings.

Thanks,

Mistrust in Love

Hi this is xyz,
I have been in a relationship with agirl for the past 2 and half years
and ours is a long distance relationship,and all this while i have
been very possesive of her,i used to scold her if she spoke to any
other guy especially if she spoke to any one in the social networking
sites,so initially she used to tell me whatever she did, to whom she
spoke but after a series of such misunderstandings between us she
stopped telling me and i thoght that she had stopped speakin to other
guys.but just about a month back she had confessed to me that there
was one guy whom she had met in a social networking site,she had given
him her phone number and they became quite close to each other
emotionally though she never met him physically,she had even told him
that she was committed but that guy always used to advice her to break
off with me but she never wanted to break up with me so she told me
everything n even broke all contacts with that guy, but this incident
had devastated me and my trusts on her is gone.so i started to check
all of her emails and social networking profiles n found out that
there were many guys with whom she used to speak online n on the phone
with some but had never told me.she had even met 1 guy recently but
that was a very official meet not a date (as she told me) now she had
told me all the truth about everything, and even promised me that
these wont ever happen again,but i have lost all my trust in her i had
even asked her to break up with me hearing which she completely broke
down and started crying, I AM TOTALLY CONFUSED NOW, I DONT WANT TO
BREAK UP BUT I CANT EVEN TRUST HER A BIT AND WITHOUT TRUST I DONT
THINK THE RELATIONSHIP WILL LAST LONG.
I WILL BE VERY MUCH GREATFUL TO YOU IF YOU GIVE ME SOME
ADVICE,SIR/MAAM I AM REALLY BANKING ON YOU, my relationship is at
stake please please help me out.

Hi,

First of all let me tell you that YOU ARE NOT A TRUSTWORTHY GUY, sorry for being blunt but that's the fact. What is the problem if your girl speaks with a guy or even meets him, don't you meet any girls or talk with any girl. Does she create a ruckus about it ? I don't think so.

It's not a matter of possessiveness, its a matter of unwanted mistrust you carry. If you are in a relationship make it unconditional love. Based on your email I find that your lady is absolutely a fantastic person and the problem lies in you. Believe me if you behave in the way you are doing currently, then you don't deserve that lady.

Just see the commitment the lady is showing, even after continuous effort from a boy who forced her to have a break up with you she didn't do it. Don't you find a great effort put by your lady to this relationship.

Above all you want her to apologize for her behavior, I think you should go & apologize to her for your behavior. Understand one thing, being in a relation doesn't mean that a person is a slave of another person. Everybody has their own personal space & if you continue to behave like this then it is for sure that the lady will be uncomfortable & break this relationship.

Grow Up, Be happy that you are blessed with a wonderful partner. I am serious, go & confront your mistakes with her & take a smooth ride instead of doubting your partner.


Again I am sorry for being blunt.

Thanks

I love my Ex-Girlfriend's best friend

i really need sum advice..
a year back i had dumped dis girl before her b'day..because of that i had spoilt my reputation infront of her friends..now after 1 year i like a girl who's her best friend and i dont know wat to do..,i dont think that she wud ever say yes to me because i was the one who dumped her best friend nd she wud think dat i will do the same thing with her..
please help...

Hi,

First of all I don't know what is the reason you dumped your earlier girl. If it was a genuine reason then there should be no problem in confronting you thoughts to the new girl OR else try to asses her feelings towards you.

Try to understand her feeling through some common friend and then take a next step. As I said majorly things depend on the reason why you dumped your ex-girlfriend. If it was a rude, selfish decision and her group sympathizes the lady then it might be tough for you to convince her friend.

Thanks,

God Bless

I Love A Girl | I am confused

I have been seeing my girlfriend for about two years now and we have been living together for the last six months. I am 24 and she is 21, and we have similar goals in life and are very compatible. Our relationships was a shock to the both of us as we found each other appealing in a way we never thought we would. She is my everything and I am hers. We are very much in love and would do anything for one another. We are each other's biggest supporter. Although things are great, I have a couple concerns in our relationship that I am able to bring to her attention, but when we communicate about them, nothing ever really gets resolved. Our families and mutual friends are supportive of our relationship, but she is having difficulty telling her friends that are not mutual amongst us. I have told my friends about my relationship and when ex boyfriends contact me, I let them know I am happily taken by someone awesome. However, this is not the case for her. She will talk to them, and when asked if she is seeing anyone she always replies "no." I have told her several times that this is hurtful, but still nothing has been done. She is worried that it will shatter her reputation or friendships if they find out she is dating a girl.

Furthermore we used to be much more physically intimate. We are both not hardcore about sexuality and doing things on a daily basis, but we would fool around weekly. We have not touched each other sexually for over 5 months now. I have brought it to her attention that I find this time frame a little alarming and asked her if it is indicative of her wanting other things/new relationship/space etc. It is beginning to wear on me and I notice myself distancing myself from her. She asks why and I tell her its because it is apparent she needs space. She tells me she loves me and is in love with me, but I am just struggling to believe it now.

Four months into our relationship she kissed another guy but was honest and told me a few days after it had happened. I forgave, and never bring it to her attention anymore -- that is part of forgiving. Most recently she contacted an ex-boyfriend via facebook and told him that she was sorry she was short with him the other day and that she actually missed him. I asked her if they had been facebooking him and she said no. It was not until I had to confront her and tell her that I saw her facebook left open that she began to explain herself. This is also not the first time she has been flirty via facebook messages to guys. Her friends have no idea we are dating so she feels the need to look as if she is still interested in guys.

I love her very much, but her actions are beginning to show signs of warning. I bring these things to her attention and she thinks I am just overreacting because she loves me and would never do anything to hurt me.

So, what is my problem? Any advice?

Hi,

Hmmm... Honestly this is one of a kind relationship I am giving advice on, but then love has no borders , no conditions & no limits.

Well you both are in a sensitive relationship. It might be true that the other lady loves you a lot & would not want to hurt you but then she might also have started thinking about the conventional way of it, atleast on the physical side of things.

It is pretty natural for people to get inclined towards opposite sex, I think you should not worry about it, talk to her and just try to say that you are also sort of getting attracted to a male. See her reactions, if she supports you understand that she likes you very much but wants to get conventional.

Coming to your question, what is you problem -- Well your problem is "Over-possessiveness" . Its good to like & love somebody but don't impose love on anybody it eventually gets destroyed. Just give her the required space, if she is getting close to somebody else it is her choice well it definitely has you too involved but then a relationship happens with 2 people. In the meanwhile you also re-assess & analyze what you want on the long run, is it this or a conventional relationship.

Just take a break & think about it.

ONE THING I AM SURE THE OTHER LADY LOVES YOU A LOT & BELIEVES IN KEEPING YOU HAPPY. SO YOU TOO DISCUSS IT WITH HER & IF SHE REALLY WANTS TO GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY, SUPPORT HER