First of all thanks for helping everybody out there...
Well, my problem is; I'm with my boyfriend for more than four years.And I must say, the relation was not so tough before a year ago. I used to teach in a boarding school and I used to have summer and winter vacations with festive vacations in a year; so time management was not a big problem.
Now, since I've joined a new job here at outsourcing company, I can't manage time for him.sometimes I feel really bad when he has to wait for a whole day and I feel like I'm not with him when he needs me.I don't get holidays here at my office and sometimes I've to work at holidays too.I can't leave the job bcoz you know, getting better job at the time of recession is very hard.
He was okay few months ago but now the situation has changed, he says he has no problem with my mismanaged schedule.he wants me to give him some more time except holidays.He wants me to meet him at my lunch break but I can't meet him during office hrs.I've also run secretly from my office sometimes to see him. and I'm really worried that my co-workers might take it wrong way. "Date at office hrs you see"
I can't even convince him.
I would have married him so that I could manage time for but he has just finished his graduation and he is unemployed.Is there any way I can convince him?Please tell me how can I mange time for him?
This is a very genuine problem & I like the way you have expressed it.
Well to answer you, I think problem here is nothing but adjustment issues. This is a temporary, as you have mentioned you BF is still to find a job, once he gets into it he will also be in a similar condition like yours.
The real issue is that you are busy at work so apart from your BF you have other things to think, but your BF will be concentrating only on thoughts about you. So he cannot be blamed either. Just tell him that you understand that he loves you & thinks about you only but for you, you definitely think about him but in office hours there are certain task that needs to be completed. Dedicate some time for him whenever possible at the earliest and have a nice talk. Try to go to a movie or some other place where you will be in a position for a heart to heart talk, IT HELPS.
Tell him that you love him very much & once he also get a job both of you can settle down and then life is for both of you.
Let me tell you that this is not a big problem and could be solved just by honest, heart-to-heart talk.
Best of luck
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Dating operates in much the same way as marketing. Like a sales person you have to sell yourself. You dress up, put the product's (your) best qualities forward, and introduce yourself to as many people as you can. The more targeted the market the more people who are going to respond to you. Just like in marketing your fear of meeting new people will limit your successes.Imagine this scenario. You are going out to socialize with a lot of different people. You want this evening to be very successful so you put on your best clothing, brush your teeth, carefully comb your hair and splash on your highest quality aftershave. You cleaned out your car the day before and polished your shoes. Now that you look your best you are going to have to sell what you have to offer. That means putting away your fear of meeting new people.
Are we describing a salesperson or a person trying to find a date? Actually, the same scenario could be used in both instances. The little snippet could describe an interview, a sales opportunity, a local club, or even a date. There is little difference between them. The processes and skills use in marketing are the same ones used in dating.Just like in marketing you can even run statistics on your success rate. For example, if you are selling widgets you may have to talk to a hundred people to get one person to purchase your product. This means you have a 1% success rate. If you want to go out on a date you may have to meet a hundred ladies to find the few you would like to take out on a date.We can increase those marketing and dating numbers by targeting our market.
This would require us to build a customer profile. These profiles usually include demographic information like income, education, personal preferences, social class, etc. Once we know who our most profitable customers are we advertise in mediums where these people congregate (we go to the places where these women go).The more targeted we are, the more we are able to sell ourselves and the more people we meet. Preparing yourself in advance will lead to higher success rates. If you knew that dating was a numbers game it would make it much easier to put away your fear a successfully find a date. You simply need to meet around 100 women a week to get 1 to 5 dates. Don't be afraid to meet people and get out there and shake some hands. Passing out your business card would probably not hurt as well.
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i m 23, unmarried , male, an EC engg. i n gujrat,
i love a woman of 22 who is near our society,
but she is married her husband ,mother&fatrher in low live with her,
her family is so much conjucted and i can't express my feeling to her.
so how can i represnt myself to her and how can exi m contecr to her please help me
Stop being foolish and try to find a girl who is not married and can live life with you. This kind of infatuation not only disturbs your life but will also ruin the lady's family. Grow up and take mature decisions.
My friend confront me about his feelings he said he loves me so much actually he is my crush...
and i think i'm falling in love with him too. the problem is both of us are committed, he is nice and sweet to me,
you cant blame me why i'm falling in love with him while im commited cause my bf ( we are 5 years commited, always have mis understandin and etc to make our relation more worst, take note m parents like him so much) dont have time to me because of some reason and he always mad at
me with wrong reason, at first the confession of my friend is nothing to me but everytime i see things that different to my bf
i can't stop my feelings.
please help me.. what should i do..??
how can i dtermined whose the better between them,,
I think you should talk to your first BF, understand things. If he behaving the same and not ready to change then you should think other way. You are committed for last 5years so there is an importaqnce to this relation so try to talk & sort, if it doesn't work and you feel the other guy is better then you should go ahead
hi, i just want to hear some advise from you. i have a boyfriend who i think not trusting me.it just start as this, in my school thers a guy who courting me, he knows i have boyfriend and im not allowing him but he continued.one day he text me a message containing that he miss me.. the one who red that message was my boyfriend and i explained it to him who really that guy was. but he still not believing in my explanation, and until now he thinking of me bad. that im doing something whether im not. this make me feel so bad, and the effects this to me is imy self confidence is lessen cause i think anything i do will be bad to him..it's hurting me so much..
I think you should spare sometime, talk with him & clear all his doubts. Even the biggest of wars can be solved with calm & composed discussions.