Archive for November 2008

Article - Serious Relationship - How to judge a serious relationship

Below is an article by Raphael Ekpenyong, the article is kept brief and clear so that anybody can judge the seriousness of his / her relationship. I found it interesting and probably it might be useful for you guys !

How to know a serious relationship
By Raphael Ekpenyong

It is often cumbersome and brainstorming to determine if the relationship you are into is a serious one or not.

In trying to do this there are some factors or things you must look out for:

1. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to have personal secrets. They must have opened up about their lives to each other. If there are additional children i.e children out of wedlock.

2. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to communicate or see singles. Their major aim is now to always interact and be with each other

3. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to work on individual grounds. They should now see themselves as being one and as such work towards achieving each other's goal and aspirations. They must give 100% of themselves: mind, body and soul in the relationship

4. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to participate in online dating and opt out of such sites by volition and not duress.

5. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to be obsessed towards each and face the reality and settle down to the real business of relationship.

6. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to be thinking and seeing each other as two separate entities.

7. The two parties in the relationship must have ceased to distrust each other. They must now have 100% trust for each other

8. The two parties in the relationship must be plain and truthful to each other

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I Love the same guy

hi im in grade 11 girl!!!one of my friend loves a guy truly!!!!that guy acted as if he loved her then after some time he ditched her badly he started spreadin rumours about her!!!actually the guy she loves is the guy I love!she comes to me everyday and starts cryin in front of me!she says plzzz help me but at last I luv that guy!!wat to do plzzzzzzzz help!!!!


Trust me -- If a guy can't respect a woman & spread rumours about her then he doesn't deserve anybody's love. Make her understand & you also understand. He is not the right guy for a relationship. The same thing can happen to you too, he can spread rumours about you. So beware of these kind of people.


Love Problem - He has started ignoring me

hii m in relationship with this guy for 4 years now.but now he is ignoring me without any reasons when i asked him that u have changed and trying to avoid me he says no i m the same.i even asked him to break up but he is even not ready for that.whenever i try to call him he is always buzy on the phone with someone when i asked him who was there he always give me stupid reasons.i love him very much dont want to leave him what should i do?


I think you should stop asking him the same stuff time & again, avoid calling him and let him call. Try this for a week, if he calls you then you should understand that he has feelings for you if he doesnt talk with him and understand what is the problem. If both of you are not comfortable then there is no meaning of a uncomfortable forced relationship.


School Love

m a 15 yr old girl.2 months before a boy in my class proposed me after he broke up with the previous one .he was in love with a girl two yrs younger than him.that girl is still his friend. in the beginning, he was really good and romantic sought but from few days he hardly talks to me.our class teacher is very doubtful and strict,so we dont talk in front of her.but i think he is ignoring me and still having something with that girl.please reply early.i hope u dont reveal my id

Hi Ash,
It's true that love has no age & it starts happening at your age. First of all understand if its love or infatuation. Boys at this age just love to roam around with girls so understand whether he is really serious and honestly you are very young to be committed. Enjoy life dear, there are many good things in life.. Enjoy it. Commitment can come later. Dont get tensed by these things so early, enjoy friendship, enjoy relationship with parents & give time to yourself. I would suggest strongly that dont get into any kind of relationship commitments as of now, gradually it will start restricting you for many things. Every thing should be done at its time and I know love happens instantaneously, but try to be friends first -- understand each other & then go for the next step, give time to yoursef & your partner.